Happy Valentine’s Day!
Let me just say, that relationships have everything to do with your success and well-being as a high achieving woman.
Now, as an entrepreneur and Consultant, I work with a lot of entrepreneurial women so I am very in tune with the struggles that are coming up for you not just in business but in your life, because it’s all connected.
It’s what sets me apart because I’ve been a leader in the corporate world, I’m a Certified Wellness Coach, I have my MBA and CPA and I run a multi revenue business today.
So why am I talking about how to create a healthy romantic relationship?
In my life and my practice I use a Wellness 360 philosophy that is a holistic approach to living the life you say you want and making it a reality.
So often, and I’ve struggled with this back in the day, but so often, we start a career only to start business, and we put our heart and soul in so much to the point where we feel stressed, overwhelmed, burnt out, resentful, and you’re feeling like, wait a minute, I’m not working less, I’m working more.
Can you relate? Are you struggling in your life or business right now?
So what happens when you are at this point? The first two things that happen is we treat our loved ones really badly AND we treat ourselves really badly.
We get moody, we get snappy, we get tired, we get unmotivated… we start taking it out on everyone else
That’s why this is so important, because relationships, including the one we have with ourselves are a key life element in Wellness 360. You can’t escape relationships – they are central to your universe.
Wellness 360 – Relationships & Your Wealth
Since it is Valentine’s Day, I wanted to talk about the romantic relationship in your life.
I’m no relationship coach, but we all know that couple that just seems like they ‘get’ each other. No matter what they go through, they still seem so in love – a healthy romantic relationship.
Then you have the other kind of romantic relationship – the ones that are volatile, unstable, and just plain drive people crazy.
You wonder how long the relationship will last and sometimes you’re tired of hearing about all the drama – Trust me, I used to be in one of these…
When it comes to your own life, you’d like to make sure you’re in a relationship that’s a lot like the first scenario, amIright?
I mean when your goal is to live a healthy life that leads to long term well-being and great amounts of wealth, relationships matter.
They can make or break your business, create calm or chaos in your life, and challenge your mental and physical health if not carefully chosen.
All relationships have this potential, but romantic relationships even more so.
Most people would like to have a life partner of some sort, to share the every day and grow with. Being in a romantic relationship is a vulnerable place to be, so choosing wisely is a smart way to go about it.
Benefits of a Healthy Romantic Relationship
Let’s talk about the BENEFITS of being in a healthy romantic relationship:
Research shows that being in a long-term, committed relationship that is built on a healthy foundation can have several health benefits. These include perks such as:
- A longer lifespan
- Less experience of pain
- More happiness
- Less depression
- Lowered risk of substance abuse
- Better heart health
- Stronger immune systems
- More resilient bodies
- Healthier nutrition
- Lower blood pressure
- Heal faster
- Physically fit bodies
- Lower stress levels
- Better management of stress
- More success in your business
- More money
Like I said it’s all connected!
Here are 6 Ways to Create a Healthy Romantic Relationship
1. Fall in love with yourself.
Before you can truly love and give to another person, you need to heal your own wounds and learn to love yourself.
If you’re the type of person that struggles to be on their own, it might be time to do some deep healing with a therapist or wellness coach that specializes in relationships so you can process old and new traumas and create space for beauty to come into your life.
Learn to love yourself by developing a self-care practice – eat better food, exercise more, get into nature.
Learn how to say “no” and prioritize your needs.
When you’ve finally fallen in love with yourself, you’ll at last attract a person who can be as mentally healthy as you are.
2. Establish healthy boundaries and honour them.
We’ve all been in a situation where we’ve said “yes” when we really wanted to say “no.”
When it comes to healthy relationships, the best policy is just being honest and honouring yourself.
From major issues like sexual consent to minor issues like your favourite flavour of ice cream or favourite flower, just express what you want.
Establishing healthy boundaries requires you to know yourself pretty well – it’s the first step in my success system because it forces you to take the time to understand your preferences, interests, and values.
When you have healthy boundaries, you don’t have to get yanked around in relationships and your self-esteem stays strong and vibrant.
3. Learn how to communicate in a healthy way.
Everyone loses their temper sometimes or gets impatient. But the majority of the time, it’s best to learn how to communicate from a positive perspective.
Learn how to truly listen to the other person and give them the space to share their feelings.
Be willing to be truthful and honest about your perspective and needs.
After both people have expressed themselves, hold a healthy discussion about how to compromise and find common ground.
If you do lose your temper or don’t communicate well, learn how to apologize and try again.
Good communication is the foundation of a healthy relationship.
4. Be positive and have fun.
We all know that person who complains non-stop about their partner. Don’t be that person.
If you don’t like your partner, get out of that relationship. Easier said than done, I get that, but just do it.
Healthy relationships are built on positive support and mutual respect.
Now I don’t like to assume, but in this case, when your partner does something wrong, first assume that they are coming from a place of good intent.
They haven’t purposely done something wrong. Stay positive and keep the lines of communication open.
And don’t forget to have lots of fun together.
Get silly, make each other laugh, work through your bucket lists together. Adulthood doesn’t have to be boring, especially when you have a best friend to share it with.
Go have some fun together regularly.
5. Engage in healthy touch and admiration.
Sexual expression is an important part of a healthy relationship and you should always be working to create a better sexual relationship together.
That said, non-sexual touch is equally important and worth increasing in your time together.
Research shows that couples who hug, kiss, snuggle, and gently touch frequently are happier overall.
As humans, we crave healing touch and a romantic partner is an excellent person to share this type of intimate touch with.
Don’t be afraid to intentionally create a relationship that values these kinds of healthy behaviours.
6. Embrace growth and value it over comfort.
I work with women that invest in their personal development constantly – they get that it’s a life long journey without even realizing it.
Part my wellness for wealth philosophy is to always be engaged in personal growth.
Sometimes in relationships that means that we grow apart or outgrow the other person (and they also might do the same).
While it can be tempting to want to stay in comfort with a person we know well, we won’t be happy in that situation for long.
When these growing pains happen in your relationship, take the time to talk honestly with your partner.
Sometimes, if you’ve chosen someone who is on a similar path that you are on, it can be easy to talk about the change and find new common ground.
But sometimes these conversations help both people realize that for their own health and personal growth, it’s best to learn how to let go – easier said than done, I know.
Prioritize your health and well-being, trust your intuition, and lean into your own growth.
In Summary…
Having a healthy romantic relationship is important for our overall well-being, our business and our bank account.
The 6 ways to create a healthy romantic relationship are:
- Fall in love with yourself.
- Establish healthy boundaries and honour them
- Communicate in healthy ways
- Be positive and have fun
- Engage in healthy touch and admiration
- Embrace growth and value it over comfort
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Have a happy valentines day!
Lots of love.
Nat
